Karen is a young woman who got pregnant at 16 and has been pretty much on her own ever since. The father never even saw his child, and her parents weren’t supportive of her situation. Fortunately, she did have one cousin who supported her. Her son, Wesley, was born when she was seven months pregnant, and he had to stay in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for two months. He has a rare seizure disorder, called KCNQ2, and he averaged ten seizures a day initially. Then when he was two months old, he stopped breathing and was brought back to life with CPR and a ventilator. Quite a lot for a young person to handle alone.
This amazing young woman somehow completed high school while caring for him and waitressing. She felt completely isolated, depressed, and overwhelmed. Plus, she blamed herself for everything and harbored a lot of anger. Her mother told her not to cry, so she didn’t. Instead she held everything inside. This is the first time she has told her story, and it was very cathartic for her. It is her hope that by sharing her story, she will touch other young mothers who may be in similar situations.
Fast forward to today. Wesley is four years old now, can’t walk or talk, and is in a wheel chair. He is in a special program at school for four hours a day. She said that whenever she takes him out in public, people stare at them and that makes her angry. She has a new man in her life, who is very supportive. He works very hard so that she can stay home to care for Wesley and for their one year old daughter, Julia. His family has been very supportive too.
Karen says, “Wesley has made me a better person, and I look at life differently now. I don’t take things for granted.” Even though she is still very isolated during the day, she enjoys her daughter, who loves her older brother. Sometimes to get a break she goes out for a drive when someone else is there.
Karen is now 20 years old and finally has the emotional support she needed during those difficult days on her own. She has been a good mother and faced her numerous trials with help from God.
- Going for a drive by herself.
- Having Wesley in school for four hours a day.
Isaiah 41:10 Do not fear, for I am with you, do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.
This single parent’s prayer seemed to reflect Karen’s situation when she was completely on her own.
By Matt Haviland, October 23, 2014, at www.1Corinthians13Parenting.com
I come before You today broken, yet humbled. Thank You my Lord for another opportunity to serve You; and although my circumstances may be far from ideal right now, they could not be in more perfect hands than Yours. Jesus, You call for all of us who are weary and heavy laden to come before You and that You will give us rest. God, my body and my soul both need rest right now. There are days I feel like nothing is going right; other days I am irritated and stressed beyond what it seems like I can handle; and there are times I wonder how I am ever going to make it on the path You have laid out before me. But then I reflect upon Your promises for my life. You have promised to never leave me nor forsake me; and that every good gift is from above. I believe Jesus has been tried and tempted in every way I have and that I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. And for that today, Lord, I am grateful.